12 Things To Let Go If You Really Want to Live A Happy Life

What is that one thing in life that you think will make you happy?

For some people, it’s getting a high-paying job. For others, it’s being able to buy their dream houses and finding the love of their lives. Depending on who you ask, the list can really get long. The truth, however, is that none of these things can really make you experience true happiness.

If you want to live a genuinely happy life, you need to learn to let go and be happy. Here are some of the things you need to relinquish.

1. Expectation from Others

Expecting more from others and less from yourself can ruin your life. If you want something, then you should work hard to achieve that. You can’t expect people to give you something that they also need.

2. The Thoughts of Becoming Rich

Dreaming of becoming the next CEO of a corporate company is good, but limiting yourself to such thoughts is bad. If you want to be rich, you need to work on your dreams.

Read a lot and find people who have achieved their goals so that you can get motivated. A happy life is not just about dreaming; it’s about working really hard to achieve your goals.

3. Trying to be Perfect

I know a lot of people who think that someone with lots of money is perfect. They claim that if you have the money, you can buy everything you want to be happy and perfect.

Unfortunately, however, perfection doesn’t exist. If you want to be happy, perfection shouldn’t exist in your mind.

4. Holding Grudges

People who hold grudges with their relatives, friends, and neighbors are usually unable to find happiness- unless they let go of those grudges.

To get a life full of colors, you should step forward to restore the relationships that once mattered to you. Make yourself free from the resentment and work your way towards a better life.

5. Trying to Control Everything

Most of the things that happen to us are not always in our control. There is no magic wand to turn life the way we want.

Instead, you should let your life happen as it should. If you frown all the time at the things that are against you, there’s a good chance you’ll end up with more negative things and events.

6. Bemoaning the Past

If you want to be truly happy, you need to focus on what’s happening now. This may seem difficult, but once you learn how to forget the past, your life will be full of joy and happiness.

7. Being Judgmental

There are many people who just love the idea of looking into other people’s lives. This way of thinking drives their minds to compare themselves with other people to the point that they start feeling miserable about their lives.

Instead of wasting your time looking at others and what they do, try to focus on your life and how you can make it better. The time you spend on thinking about others can be put to better use, such as enhancing your skills or finding a new hobby.

8. Being Jealous of Others

People who bear malice to others cannot live a successful and happy life. Jealousy will make you feel desperate and it can steal all your happiness.

If someone has something you desire, don’t be jealous of him. He may have worked hard to achieve that. Instead of feeling jealous, try and do your best to achieve the same. Start working hard and set your goals, instead of getting angry and offensive.

Your life will be better if you can overcome the jealousy.

9. Feeling Insecure All the Time

If you’re passionate in your desire to live a happy life, then it’s time to let go of the feelings of insecurity. You’re different from other people and you should always bear that in mind.

If you worry all the time about your low status in society, no one will suffer the consequences but you. Your life will be full of sorrow and you’ll feel constantly low. The strength to culminate a happy life is only possible to achieve if you can stop feeling insecure.

10. The Fear of Everything

Your worst enemy is fear; the fear of facing others, stepping up and failing. Most of the time, it is these things that steal your happiness. One moment you’ll feel great and awesome, but once you feel these fears, everything comes crumbling down again.

Fear is normal. Everyone experiences fear. However, if you want to be truly happy, you need to break the chain that’s holding you back and just let go and be happy.

11. Negativity in Life

People who are always sarcastic are less happy in life. It’s because their lives are dominated by negativity. They constantly make life complicated- which shouldn’t always be the case.

As the famous saying goes, “Life is only 10 % of what happens to you and 90 % of how you react to it.”

To be happy, you need to turn a deaf ear to the things that irk you. Live a life with positive thoughts and you’ll start to see things on the brighter side.

12. A Narcissistic Attitude

Most of the people who show narcissistic behaviors cannot make a life that is praiseworthy. Instead, they live a life full of dull and negative thoughts. This makes them very uncomfortable to the point that they start living an unhappy life.

Instead of drowning yourself in such thoughts, you need to really let go and be happy. Do no be obsessed about yourself and the things that are happening to you. Instead, you need to learn to understand and think of other people, too.

Conclusion

If you want happiness, your main aim in life should not be about becoming the richest person in the world or the most popular one. Instead, you should live your life to the fullest and grasp all of the positive things that come along. Stop chasing the material things and just enjoy what you have today.

http://www.dumblittleman.com/2016/09/let-go-and-be-happy.html

How to Feel Better When You’re Down (Without Forcing Yourself to Be Positive)

“Forget the failures. Keep the lessons.” ~Dalai Lama

The year had finally come. I’d officially entered the “adult” world after celebrating my thirtieth birthday.

I’d enjoyed being in my twenties. It was an incredible time for self-growth and healing after growing up in an unstable environment with a narcissistic, alcoholic father, and also a time of living life fully, having fun, and going on adventures.

I felt pretty happy…until I hit thirty.

I began examining my life not so positively anymore.

Health problems had become more frequent and scary, my career path was ominous, I had not settled into a place where I wanted to live, and the answer to the big question for women my age (“Are you married with kids?”) was a definite “no.” I felt like I had nothing to show for myself.

So, I resorted to one companion that I had known for a long time: the negativity blanket.

We all have our times with the negativity blanket. It’s not soft, warm, or big, but it’s so familiar.

I used the negativity blanket as protection during the times when I had no safe haven, when I had no comfort, no one to hug me and tell me it was all going to be okay. In a way, it helped me cope with the difficult aspects of my life.

In my twenties I’d learned how to let go of that blanket. I’d learned about discarding old habits that were no longer serving me, accepting situations, fostering a positive mindset, and trying to find solutions to problems without allowing negativity to hold me back.

The time had come to get back to that mentality—but I had to do it without shaming myself for my natural feelings.

It’s easy to feel guilty about not being positive all the time, but we’re only human. It’s okay to have low times, so long as we don’t let them consume us.

Below are some ways to gently move from a place of persistent negativity to more positivity.

Go through what you have to go through.

We all experience difficult emotions. Own them. If we do not own our emotions, we feel shame for having them and it’s harder to see the issue in front of us clearly. It may even become suppressed or internalized.

I felt a string of mixed emotions before I turned thirty. Mostly, I felt lost and insecure because of where I was in life in comparison to a large majority of my peers. These were totally natural emotions.

By letting myself feel them, I was eventually able to move beyond them. As they say, the only way out is through.

Realize your triggers.

It’s always easier to deal with something if you know what you are dealing with. Breaking down a problem and identifying your fears, unknowns, and stressors gives more clarity into what you can change, face, or let go, as well as what challenges you might have in front of you.

For example, my triggers were fears related to being financially stable and cared for, as well as having someone to care for in the future. Realizing what was bothering me helped guide me through finding solutions, such as re-directing my life goals and working on being patient.

Find space.

Begin to create space between you and issues. Creating space means that you are taking a step back from your emotions and taking a look at what you are experiencing a little more objectively.

I began to work on shedding the shame I was feeling as a result of the narrative that I was telling myself, that I had no accomplishments when I turned thirty. Instead, I found space in between the feelings that I was facing by relinquishing control over them. I stopped trying to control my future by planning or worrying and instead focused on my hopes and intentions.

Be grateful.

Gratitude is a powerful tool. It’s the first step to setting a good mindset. You don’t have to be grateful for anything related to your problem; it helps just to identify three things you’re grateful for each day.

I became aware of more value in the life I was living and began cultivating gratitude toward that. I was grateful for the opportunity to move to a different state, for my friends back home and in my new one, and for having the privilege to work as an ecological restoration technician on some of the most beautiful natural areas, I would argue, on this planet.

Reminding yourself to be grateful allows you to see some richness in your life, regardless of what you’re going through.

Take the good with the bad.

It’s not that bad things don’t happen to good people, but the way we handle our issues depends on our perspective. A feeling of personal empowerment emerges when you are able to accept the bad and enjoy the good in each situation.

Even though I had not spent my former years settling down, when I look back I see that I traveled to different countries and states, worked an array of different cool jobs in the natural resources industry, got involved in various hobbies and activities that I never thought I could even do, and so much more.

Watch for opportunities.

During this hard time, I began to find opportunities to better myself. I started fine tuning my skills in the various activities I pursued and refined my habits into more appropriate and healthy ones. I realized that I had to opportunity to grow into a better person, and in a better direction than ever before.

It may just take time and patience to realize what may come out of a situation; after all, to quote Jodi Mitchell, “Something’s lost, yet something is gained in living every day.”

Build strength.

Call on your courage and see how this can make you stronger.

I was having a terrible time traveling solo internationally at one point in my life and was reciting my woes to a hostel roommate of mine, who happened to have more bad luck than I did. Her perspective was “Sometimes the more you go through, the more you know you are able to handle.” Believe that.

Focus on the lesson.

If you look at past issues, are there any lessons that were learned? Did you get through them and did you feel good about that? That may be one silver lining.

During this time, I was again reminded of how my perspective influences how I work through issues and how much I enjoy life. That negativity blanket was not as useful in the big picture of things.

It’s not possible or healthy to be positive PollyAnna all day. Tragic events, trauma, and drama happen, and we have to go through anything that life hands us. When I felt bad for feeling bad, I reminded myself to stop being so hard on myself. This allowed me to accept my challenges and to recognize the beauty in my life.

It’s the little things we do to motivate and encourage ourselves that bring positivity to our inner world.

Accept all the emotions and feelings that arise and don’t feel bad about feeling bad. Instead, gently pull yourself out of it, just as you’d offer compassion and support to a friend. With your own motivation and encouragement, you’ll feel much stronger overall, and a lot more positive.

By Anna Puchalski

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/feel-better-without-forcing-yourself-to-be-positive/

3 Warning Signs You Need To Clear Negative Energy

There comes a certain point in our lives that we must admit that there is too much negativity for us to handle all at once. This is more than okay to admit and doesn't mean you're weak in anyway at all.

Some people have a really hard time ridding themselves of that negativity and then eventually it consumes them, then becomes their way of living every single day of their life.

Do not let this negativity win you over. There are some signs that indicate that it may be time for you to detox yourself from some of the unnecessary negative things in your life!

Constantly Wanting To Be Alone

If you are constantly finding yourself needing to be alone away from other people, this is a pretty big indication that you need to get rid of the negativity in your life.

The first step to ending this problem is realizing when it's happening and then stopping right there. Once you realize you want to be away from people, ask yourself why and then choose a more positive direction to go from there.

 

Constantly Feeling Depressed Or Anxious

If you are feeling utter sorrow and despair as you go about your day or that you feel like a never ending mess of anxiety, this is one of the biggest warning signs it's time for you to start a negativity cleanse.

Take some time off for yourself to really start mentally healing yourself. Practicing meditation, exercise, eating healthy, and a variety of other things that relate to those can help you tremendously when it comes to standing up to depression and anxiety.

 

Constantly Exhausted When Talking To People

If you find yourself having a hard time keeping a conversation with someone you know and feel as if it's one of the most exhausting conversations you've ever had, this is also one of the biggest warning signs you need a negativity cleanse. The solution to this problem is simply to be more of an active listener. Why is this the solution?

Because if you devote all of your attention to that person who is speaking, you are no longer focusing on the negativity you feel within yourself and are actually paying attention to what the person is trying to tell you. You may actually enjoy where the conversation goes!

http://www.higherperspectives.com/clear-negative-energy-1808740055.html

5 Obvious Warning Signs The Universe Sends When You're On The Wrong Path

Receiving negative remarks from others.

Some people are nasty and that's just a fact of life, but it's when people really start to rebel against you and what you're doing that you should take pause. Of course, people slinging mud at you might also be because you're doing exactly what you should, society be damned.

Related: 5 Awkward Feelings That Actually Indicate You're On The Right Path

An overall uneasy feeling.

I think this is an incredibly familiar feeling for everyone - it's just kind of a nasty gut feeling that things aren't right. When your gut is telling you that things aren't right, I think it's a safe bet that you aren't on the right path!

More anger than normal.

When you aren't on the right path, things tend to be considerably more difficult for you. As a result, you might find yourself quicker to anger than ever before. Of course, you can handle this anger through deep breathing exercises and other healthy things, but consider why it is you feel angry to begin with. Is it because you're not on the right path in life?

Headaches and illness.

When you're on the wrong path, the universe sends signals through your body. It manifests in headaches, compromised immune systems, and illness. When you're on the wrong path, your very being suffers.

Losing and breaking important things.

The final sign you are sent from the universe is the loss and breaking of things that are dear to you. They're omens, if you will, signs that you must change your path.

http://www.higherperspectives.com/warning-signs-1593284933.html

5 Ways To Completely Remove Negative Energy

Negativity invades our lives when traumatic things have happened or negative people are let in. Unfortunately, that negative energy can stick around in your home. Suddenly you’ve got these terrible vibes in your home that are hard to clear. What can we do about it?

1. Open your windows.

You can think of negative energy like smoke in a way. If you’ve got nasty, thick smoke in your home, what do you do? Open up some windows and doors and let it out. Bring some fresh air, and fresh energy, back into your home.

2. Smudge.

Smudging, or burning sage, not only has positive air cleaning benefits, but it can also help cleanse negative spiritual energy from your space as well. Burning sage has been used for thousands of years to help negative spirits move on and clear negative energy.

3. Salt lamps.

There is beauty and tranquility in rock salt lamps. They help focus positive energy, like small beacons of positivity, that helps heal negative energy in a space. Some also believe that Himalayan pink salt lamps can clear positive ions that make us sick from the air.

4. Play uplifting music.

When you’re in a bad mood, music you love helps lift you up, right? Think of it the same way for your space. Playing some uplifting music, music you love, and even soft, soothing classical music can really clear out negative energy.

5. Meditate.

If all else fails, spend time in mindful meditation. Visualize the negative energy being pushed out by your positive energy field. See your energy pushing into every corner of your home expelling the sadness and anger.

http://higherperspectives.com/remove-negative-energy/

6 Ways To Protect Yourself From Negative Energy

We’ve all known someone at some time or another who has been overly negative. It really brings you down. After a while, their negative energy is embodied in you and that’s never good. How can we protect ourselves from people like this?

1. React appropriately.

Don’t meet negativity with more negativity. Don’t just react. React the right way. Be mindful of what you say and how you say it. Don’t just react.

2. Keep it light.

When things start getting a little too heavy, change the direction of the conversation to something lighter. Find positive things to talk about. Don’t be afraid to steer them away from negative subjects.

3. Find solutions.

If you have a friend or relative whose negativity stems from a problem, talk to them about solutions. If they don’t want to find solutions…

4. Be detached.

Detach yourself emotionally from them. Hear them out, be the listening ear they need, but don’t invest yourself in it in any way.

5. Don’t try to change them.

This is kind of a more advanced version of #4. Some negative people either can’t or won’t be changed. They don’t want to. So don’t try to force them into it. This helps protect yourself from their negativity.

6. Set limits.

When all else fails, set boundaries with negative people. Limit how much time you spend with them. Never meet them in your personal space.

http://higherperspectives.com/negative-energy/

How to Keep Your Spirits Up When You’re Bombarded With Negativity All Day

“In essence, if we want to direct our lives, we must take control of our consistent actions. It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.” ~Tony Robbins

Do you ever have to deal with negative people?

Do you ever have days where everybody seems to want to bark at you all day long?

Under those circumstances, you struggle to keep your spirits up, don’t you?

Well, I know the feeling—all too well, unfortunately.

Years ago, I worked in a collection department for an insurance company collecting the unpaid debts of policyholders. Trying to obtain debt was like pulling teeth. But both the customer and I equally felt the pain for one undeniable reason …

People hate debt collectors, period.

Representing the company, I politely answered calls from those who questioned their outstanding balances. No matter how or what I said to appease the masses, they would retaliate. They’d yell my ear off and curse at me. And boy, did it take its toll on me.

By evening, I was mentally exhausted and drained and repeatedly asked myself, “How do I cope with the stress but more importantly the negativity?”

It was like clockwork; my mind was battered and bruised daily. I’d arrive home feeling the ill effects from the entire workweek. I didn’t go out or do anything on the weekends. Depression would engulf me, and I would hit a record low once Sunday afternoon arose.

Anticipating work was like approaching the apex of a roller coaster. You know there’s no going back and there’s only one way out … and it’s down this big drop whether I liked it or not.

Back then, my plan still was to move up the company’s career ladder, so as much as I loathed the job, leaving it to find something more fulfilling never even occurred to me. Instead, I tried to find ways to cope with all the negativity.

Eventually, I succeeded. I developed a safeguard. And even though the work experience wasn’t the best, it did have one positive effect.

I developed a shield against negativity, and to this day, I feel much better equipped to deal with negative people in my life without letting them get me down. Here’s how you can do the same:

1. Arm yourself with positives.

Prime yourself before walking out the door. Load up with whatever positives you can get before you tackle a new week. Watch inspirational or funny movies, laugh at jokes, read enriching and influential books, listen to uplifting music, or learn from motivational speakers and teachers.

Stock up as much positivity as you can, because everyday life can sap you of your precious energy. Your commute, job, unexpected challenges, personal problems, and friend and family issues can take their toll if you’re not prepared.

2. Choose not to mirror others.

Sometimes, others’ negative vibes subconsciously influence us. It’s not our fault we’re human. If someone is rude toward us, our defenses go up, and we’ll dish out the same in return. We’ll unknowingly become trapped and mirror their negative energy exactly.

If someone’s being negative toward you, and you realize it’s influencing you for the worst, make a conscious effort to get back in the driver’s seat and be in control.

Instead of mirroring their energy, try to help them mirror yours. Be glad that you’re in a more positive state, and reflect the desired positive outcome back at them.

If they raise their voice, you speak calmly. If they’re rude, you act politely. That’s the name of the game. Now it’s just a matter of who caves in first.

Maintain your energy, and stay the course no matter what. You’ll know you’ve got them when they start matching your tone.

3. Allow others to talk your ear off without ruffling your feathers.

Let me first preface this by saying it is not healthy to always listen to someone vent.

You’ll need to set boundaries and not let people treat you like a punching bag, but when you’re dealing with clients or customers, you can’t exactly ignore them. In those cases, just let them vent their frustrations without taking it personally.

Realize their problems are probably not with you specifically but with other issues that caused them torment.

Perhaps they need to vent their frustrations about the company you work for.

Whatever it is, taking it personally would be fruitless. Don’t stand in their way and take the brunt of the onslaught. Just step aside and let them attack the problem head-on to redirect the negativity away from you. That’s how you should visualize it in your head.

Remember, they’re not really attacking you. They’re attacking the problem. The problem itself is not a part of you; it’s a separate entity.

If they’re angry with you personally because you made an error, put your ego away, be honest about it, apologize, and move forward. Never hide anything. It’ll just make the situation and your feelings worse off than before.

Create the least amount of friction as possible by shifting the negativity away from you.

4. Kindly compliment others whom you dislike.

If you do find yourself disagreeing with someone, make the best of it by trying to find a point they thought of that you actually agree with. Then genuinely take the time to compliment them for their idea.

Doing so will subconsciously create a small bond. Believe it or not, this micro-connection is a tiny foundation that you can build upon for a better relationship in the future.

It’s always best to come out of a conversation on a good note rather than leave any potential seed of negativity.

5. Treat yourself when you feel the negativity getting to you.

A gift to yourself (it doesn’t necessarily have to be material) is the perfect distraction to help shift your mindset and lift your spirits when you’re down.

You should give yourself a reward, even a small one, at the end of the day or week. For example, it could be as simple as pre-ordering a book that’s piqued your curiosity or perhaps scheduling a dinner with someone you’ve wanted to be closer to.

Whatever it is, it gives you something mentally positive to hold onto and think about to make it through a tough day.

YOUR POSITIVE ACTIONS MAKE YOU YOUR OWN LEADER, NOT A FOLLOWER

You’ll have to deal with a certain amount of negativity in your life. You can’t really change that. Negative people exist, and even the positive ones can succumb to negativity on a bad day.

But you can change how you deal with it … if you allow yourself to. You can change how you react. Is it easy? It can be. Is it challenging? It can be. The real answer is actually up to you. At its very core, negativity is how you perceive it.

You can choose to keep your spirits up no matter what negative people throw at you. And maybe you can even change their moods while you’re at it.

Is it worth the effort? Unequivocally yes. I gained this valuable life skill that I undoubtedly couldn’t get anywhere else, and I use this skill to this day.

Take control of your life, and lead it where we want to go. Don’t allow others to dictate how you should feel. That’s something you can do for yourself.

Negative and positive image via Shutterstock

By Perry Manzano

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-keep-your-spirits-up-even-if-youre-bombarded-with-negativity-all-day/

Top 10 Habits that Prevent Your Success

Even though you have the desire and the intention to be successful and accomplish your goals, your negative habits may be so ingrained that they are blocking your success. Check out these common bad habits that can become obstacles to your success – and what you can do about them:

1. Negativity

If you focus on the positives, you’re less susceptible to fears and worries, which prevent you from success. If you stop giving energy to negative thoughts, you’ll free your mind to start working toward your goals. Becoming aware of your thought patterns is the first step change.

Even if you’ve been a chronic pessimist for years, you can change your mindset to one that will benefit you. This process will require effort in the beginning, however, it gets easier with practice. One way to switch a negative mindset to a positive one is to practice gratitude. Every day, write down 5 specific things you are grateful for. For example; “I’m grateful for my family because they support me and make me laugh.”

2. Making Excuses

Excuses allow you to avoid doing something you know is important and beneficial to you. Some examples are: “I’m too busy.” “I don’t have enough money.” “It’s not the right time.” “I’m afraid of what people will think of me.” “I might fail.” You have probably heard most of these excuses before. In fact, you’ve probably used some of them yourself.

The most effective way to stop making excuses is to catch yourself making them. Then, take massive action on whatever you just made the excuse about. If you catch yourself making a lot of excuses to prevent yourself from accomplishing your goals, make time for self-reflection. Are your goals what you truly want to accomplish, or are they someone else’s goals or expectations for you? The things you want to do the least are probably the things you need to do the most.

3. Over Committing

Are you committing to too many projects and tasks? While it may be tempting to always say yes to others, make sure it is not to the detriment of your own health and wellbeing. If you take on more than you can cope with, you’ll become tired, stressed and overwhelmed and you won’t have enough time for yourself and your goals.

Set your boundaries and get comfortable saying no. In other words, put on your own oxygen mask on first, before you help others. Every time you decline an opportunity that doesn’t serve you or fit with your purpose, you create space for another opportunity that does.

4. Procrastinating

Know that your time is valuable and the tasks you do to achieve your goals are important. Putting off tasks until the last minute is a habit that won’t get you where you want to be in life. Successful people get things done, and they get things done now.

To kick the procrastination habit, Nike says it best: Just do it! At first you may feel resistance when you step out of your procrastination comfort zone. Push through the discomfort and resistance and ignore the doubts and worries that are keeping you from being productive. Tell yourself to do what needs to be done now.

5. Perfectionism

You may believe that striving for perfection will lead you to success. However, the habit of perfectionism results in unrealistic expectations. Successful people are people who want to make things happen fast, they don’t wait for the “right time”.

When you are continuously growing and improving yourself, it’s important to see mistakes as learning experiences rather than failures. Nobody’s perfect, so shift your focus from being perfect to being perfectly imperfect. Repeat this mantra to yourself: “I am perfectly imperfect.”

6. Fear

Do you always have doubts and worries floating around in your head? Are you afraid of change, even if it’s good? Have you ever stopped doing something due to fear of failure or rejection? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then fear is inhibiting your achievements.

Most fears are illusions you create in your mind. In other words, they’re not real. So why let something that’s not real control your emotions and behaviour? It’s not that successful people don’t feel fear; they do. They just don’t let it rule their lives. The next time fear is holding you back from getting what you want, feel the fear and do it anyway.

7. Playing the Blame Game

Blaming is an automatic reaction and it may be something you do unconsciously. Perhaps you’re afraid you’ll look bad to others, or maybe you’re afraid to accept some of the choices you’ve made in your life. Either way, if you blame other people or things for your actions and choices, you are preventing yourself from the success you want.

The best way to stop playing the blame game is to learn to take responsibility for yourself. Be accountable for everything you can control in your life, such as your thoughts, actions and choices. You’ll gain more respect for yourself and from others when you show you can take responsibility.

8. Not Being Present

While it’s ok (and even recommended) to spend time dreaming and planning for the future and reflecting and learning from the past, the majority of your attention should be focused on what’s happening here and now. Be prepared for possible future events, however don’t dwell on potential outcomes until they happen. Why waste time worrying about things that probably won’t ever occur?

If you continuously relive past experiences in your mind or worry about the future, be mindful of your thoughts by asking yourself, “What am I thinking at this moment?” If you’re thinking about something related to the past or future, make an effort to bring your mind back to the present.

9. Getting Distracted

If you get distracted easily, you may find yourself jumping from one project to the next or perhaps abandoning a project you are very passionate about because the excitement has worn off. When a new idea captures your imagination and attention in such a way that you get distracted from the bigger picture and go off on a tangent, you have “shiny object syndrome”. Remember to F.O.C.U.S. (Follow One Course Until Successful).

In most cases, distractions are caused by three factors: boredom, lack of discipline and disorganisation. If you’re bored with the project you’re working on, take a break from it until you’re ready to work on it again. If another person is distracting you, politely tell them that you need to focus on whatever you are working on and let them know you will be able to speak to them when you are finished. If you are distracted by your phone, email, social media or the TV, turn it off. Delete Facebook from your phone for 1 week and see how much more you accomplish!

10. Relying on Other’s Opinions

If you validate yourself based on other people’s opinions, or you don’t think for yourself, you’re not living your life for the most important person in it: you! Although getting other people’s feedback and opinions is okay for guidance, don’t use it to determine your self-worth.

If you are successful, it is highly likely that your goals will go against the norm. Don’t listen to the naysayers, they either don’t understand what you want to achieve or they are jealous of you. Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. If you believe a decision is right for you, go for it. Do what makes you happy and don’t let others bring you down.

by Peter Conna 

http://eqevents.com.au/top-10-habits-that-prevent-your-success/?inf_contact_key=ca7b55f9e15c5d276a300a761f80c085f1018e23e3b6dc0e587228fc4594f445

35 Reasons Why You’re Succeeding At Life (Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It)

In order to measure how successful we have been so far in life, we need to look at the little things instead of focusing on the big things such as being millionaires or having a fancy car.

Feel like you haven’t succeeded at all? Here are 35 reasons that you are actually succeeding, even if you don’t feel like it:

1. Your relationships are not as dramatic or complicated as they used to be.

Your relationships have become far easier for you as compared to previously. There are no unnecessary fights or arguments.

2.You confidentially ask for help and support when needed.

You know how important it is to ask for support and help because one person alone cannot achieve everything. Therefore, you ask for it when needed.

3. Your standards have raised.

You have no tolerance for negativity or bad behavior, and you make sure that other people are held accountable for their actions.

4. You leave the negativity behind.

Negativity just drags people down, and what your focus in life has been is to uplift yourself and your soul.

5. You understand the importance of failure and setbacks.

Failures or setbacks are not a threat to you anymore. Rather, you know the importance of learning from these experiences.

6. You don’t complain all that often anymore.

You realize that complaining brings more negativity and hinders constructive action. You would rather be doing something about the situation as opposed to whining.

7. You get happy for other people’s successes.

Being happy for other people not only uplifts them, it uplifts you too. You have started sending out positive energy all around this way.

8. You have future goals and passions that you anticipate dearly.

You know what you want to achieve in life and you work towards those achievements.

9. You are empathetic.

You love spreading positive energy and love in this world and being more open to listening to other people.

10. You don’t care about what others think.

You have stopped bothering with the negative behavior or thinking of other people and are especially aware that this thinking should have no impact on you or your personal growth.

11. You’re always optimistic and happy.

You are always full of optimism and know that things will go right no matter what.

12. You love and allow yourself to be loved.

There is no limit to the amount of love you can spread.

13. You never let yourself be the victim.

You realize that life is a consequence of how you want it to be. You always work towards ensuring a better life instead of complaining.

14. You try being present in the moment as much as possible.

Mindfulness helps individuals live in the present moment. You know how important this is instead of thinking about the past or the future all the time.

15. You never judge.

People are often too quick to judge others when they have no business doing so. It always pays to place yourself in someone else’s shoes before passing judgments.

16. You don’t allow guilt to gulp you down.

A lot of people face emotional guilt for not doing something for others. You have stopped letting that get the best of you.

17. You have stopped trying to please everyone around you.

You do things for yourself now instead of for other people.

18. You have a strong support system.

You have people that you can rely and seek help from.

19. You keep moving forward, no matter how tough life gets.

Moving forward, even though life becomes tough is what will keep you truly happy in the long run, and you already know this.

20. You have become much stronger on the inside.

You have this strength on the inside that you never knew you had before, and this helps you accomplish even more tasks.

21. You love others more than you used to.

All you have to spread around now is a lot of love for other people.

22. You recognize all your accomplishments.

You know all you have accomplished so far and you are proud of it.

23. You know you have a path to follow, and you follow that.

For you, your path alone is what you are concerned about.

24. You work daily towards overcoming your fears.

We all have fears. However, you have made a conscious effort into making sure that you slowly remove all your fears.

25. You are always grateful no matter what.

You remain grateful for your life, no matter how tough it seems to get.

26. You are more determined than you ever were before.

You have this strong internal desire and determination to excel in all avenues that you pursue.

27. You have started surrounding yourself with the right people.

A good life is all about finding the right people. They help to instill positivity in your life and uplift you completely.

28. You feel happy when you see yourself in the mirror.

When you see yourself in the mirror, you get happy and feel proud of yourself.

29. You know the importance of saying ‘no’.

When you do not feel like doing anything, you do not hesitate to say no.

30. You have stopped comparing yourself or your life with other people and their lives.

Comparing yourself to others is the worst thing that you could possibly do. Each individual should only focus on their own lives.

31. You look forward to leaning something new as much as possible.

With new learning comes new experiences and you always get excited about that.

32. You have overcome most of your obstacles.

Everyone face obstacles in their lives. However, you know you are far more successful if you have overcome most of them.

33. You don’t whine over the things that you cannot change.

You remain happy and are more acceptant of the life that you have.

34. You love yourself instead of the idea of everyone else loving you.

The first step to truly being content with yourself is loving you for who you are.

35. You bring a smile to people’s faces.

The mere presence of you is so uplifting that it brings a smile to people’s faces.

by Entrepreneur Abroad 
http://www.dumblittleman.com/2015/05/35-reasons-youre-succeeding-life-even-doesnt-feel-like.html