“Broken heart will turn into a stronger one within hope.”— Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut
There are only a few people in the world who manage to go through life without experiencing a broken heart at least once.
People feel it in different ways but for almost every person a broken heart hurts.
Just like how many people feel heartbreak differently there are different ways to mend a heartbreak.
No matter who you are, leaving anything that reminds you of your partner in sight will not help you get over your heartbreak.
Move anything that could remind you of your significant other such as gifts and photographs to somewhere that you can’t see them. You can take them back out when you are through with mending your broken heart.
1. Accept your memories of your ex.
Psychologists say that contrary to popular belief fantasizing about your ex is not a bad thing. In fact, fantasizing about your ex might help you get over them quicker.
When you try to suppress the memories of your ex-partner you are more likely to feel them come back at a later time only stronger.
Not just that but as you suppress them you are telling your mind that it is doing something wrong for wanting to think of what you had.
2. Avoid rebound relationships.
A lot of people run into relationships after they go through a break up. These rebound relationships almost never workout and typically you do not truly like your rebound crush.
On the other hand after a breakup some people feel like they need to save themselves in case their ex wants to come back. If you broke up chances are that your ex isn’t coming back.
It is time to keep an open mind but you don’t have to rush into anything. Consider anything that comes your way but don’t go out specifically looking for that.
3. Let your emotions out.
Laughing is a magical cure for almost any bad day. This includes when you breakup.
Don’t be afraid to go out with friends and laugh at jokes. Laughing will put a smile on your face and it is contagious.
Crying isn’t a bad thing either. Cry, let it out and don’t hold it in.
If you hold it in, it will just build up and continue to make you feel bad.
Just because it is okay to cry though doesn’t mean you should go overboard, don’t spend all of your time crying or else all you will be able to think of is your ex.
4. Communicate with your ex.
You and your ex need to talk, yes you were together and you aren’t anymore but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk.
You need to decide whether or not you and your ex are going to be friends — if you are going to be friends.
If you are going to be friends you need to agree that that is all you are going to be.
If you aren’t going to be friends any more than you need to agree that it is time to go your separate ways.
5. Try new things.
One of the best way to get over something old is to try something new.
Find a new hobby such as sculpting or drawing. Take classes and find other people who like the same hobby.
By finding a new hobby you are creating something new for yourself and the learning keeps your mind off what was.
Almost all of the time you can channel your feelings into art and it will help you feel better about them.
6. Don’t stress yourself out.
You might feel a little bit of stress but you should avoid stressing out too much.
Stress will make you unhealthy and will make you more than just upset. You need to make sure that you keep up all parts of your life.
The first is to make sure you eat a healthy amount. If you overeat you will put on weight and run the risk of getting health related issues.
Eating too little will have health repercussions too.
Another thing to ensure is that you get the proper amount of sleep. A lot of us will want to stay up when we think about our significant other and be sad.
Negating your sleep though will put strain on your body and on your life. Getting proper sleep will help you get over the heart break sooner.
So get out there and try something new. Don’t forget your past but don’t dwell on it either. Don’t force yourself into anything you aren’t ready for and most of all be gentle on yourself.
Positive thoughts will help your breakup be less of a negative thing. Words like nightmare and terrible should be avoided. Lock those words up and don’t use them.
Use positive words as you move on.
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